How to Win the Bachelor: The Secret Rules of America's True Pastime
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Summary
Perfect for fans of Bachelor Nation and Seinfeldia， an illuminating deep dive into the most successful reality TV franchise of all time—The Bachelor。
Since its premiere in 2002， ABC’s The Bachelor has become a staple of American television。 Now， discover the fascinating history of the show， uncover the ins and outs of the phenomenon that has become Bachelor Nation， and take a deeper look at what separates the winners from the losers。
From how best to exit the limo on Night One， to strategies for making a run for the all-important First Impression Rose， to how to avoid being labeled a villain， this clear-eyed guide illustrates the rules and strategies any would-be contestant should know。
The ultimate must-read for every fan， How to Win the Bachelor gives you an inside look at the franchise where The Rose holds all the power。
Since its premiere in 2002， ABC’s The Bachelor has become a staple of American television。 Now， discover the fascinating history of the show， uncover the ins and outs of the phenomenon that has become Bachelor Nation， and take a deeper look at what separates the winners from the losers。
From how best to exit the limo on Night One， to strategies for making a run for the all-important First Impression Rose， to how to avoid being labeled a villain， this clear-eyed guide illustrates the rules and strategies any would-be contestant should know。
The ultimate must-read for every fan， How to Win the Bachelor gives you an inside look at the franchise where The Rose holds all the power。
Reviews
Nora
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I’ve already devoured the audiobook of this masterpiece。 Prophets of the game， the authors take us on a journey into the minds of the contestants and what they must do to avoid being eliminated。 Absolutely sensational。
Sam
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Still reading but love it so far！
May Victoria
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WOWWWWWWWIEEEEEE！！！！！！！！！！
Zach Weinberg
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They did it， folks！ As a fan of the Game of Roses podcast， it was striking to read their analysis of and step-by-step strategies for success on The Bachelor without the trappings of GoR。 I expected the book to take more after the podcast: relying on their humor， the interplay of their personalities， the ESPN-esque structure， and the manic energy of their weekly show。 But no — this truly is a manual on how the game works， and how to turn it to your advantage。 As much as I enjoy their discussion o They did it， folks！ As a fan of the Game of Roses podcast， it was striking to read their analysis of and step-by-step strategies for success on The Bachelor without the trappings of GoR。 I expected the book to take more after the podcast: relying on their humor， the interplay of their personalities， the ESPN-esque structure， and the manic energy of their weekly show。 But no — this truly is a manual on how the game works， and how to turn it to your advantage。 As much as I enjoy their discussion of favorite players or seasons， the book’s focus is a strong point in its favor。 Reading their steps for a perfect one-on-one date， for example， I was struck by the simplicity， clarity， and accuracy of their analysis。 Having watched the show a lot （obviously not as much as them）…their identification of the show’s structure and strategies for execution sure seem right！ The final chapter of the book， discussing the audience’s complicity in the patriarchal， racist， misogynistic， structure and underpinnings of the book is a necessary coda。 As a fan of something， especially something large， its necessary to reckon with its cultural impact and the message it sends… and for better or for worse， nothing made me understand American culture more than starting to watch the Bachelor。 If you’re at all interested in The Bachelor， or critical analysis of reality TV， or if you like when things are quantified or gamified， give this book a read。 And if you know anyone who might go on the show， PLEASE have them read this。 。。。more
Jordan
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The Pit provides！！！ 🌹
Saniya
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trigger warnings: racism mentionThis was such a fab work of deconstructing the premise of a bachelor into a sport。 I loved the analysis of play， hero players， how to win strategies and more。 I'm an avid listener of their podcast Game of Roses and this was like an extension of their conversation。 I am especially a big fan of the last chapter that addresses complicity when it comes to the Bachelor franchise and it's transgressions with regards to race and diversity。 Really well done！ trigger warnings: racism mentionThis was such a fab work of deconstructing the premise of a bachelor into a sport。 I loved the analysis of play， hero players， how to win strategies and more。 I'm an avid listener of their podcast Game of Roses and this was like an extension of their conversation。 I am especially a big fan of the last chapter that addresses complicity when it comes to the Bachelor franchise and it's transgressions with regards to race and diversity。 Really well done！ 。。。more
Brynn | readyourworriesaway
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As a huge Bachelor fan， this book was the deep-dive I never knew I needed。 Lizzy Pace and Chad Kultgen completed a “super binge” where they watched every episode of the Bachelor from season 1 to season 25。 While watching， they compiled data and created this masterpiece of a book that outlines how to “win” ABC’s The Bachelor。 I only started watching The Bachelor during Arie Luyendyk’s season， but Kultgen and Pace filled me in on everything I needed to know。 How to Win the Bachelor includes data a As a huge Bachelor fan， this book was the deep-dive I never knew I needed。 Lizzy Pace and Chad Kultgen completed a “super binge” where they watched every episode of the Bachelor from season 1 to season 25。 While watching， they compiled data and created this masterpiece of a book that outlines how to “win” ABC’s The Bachelor。 I only started watching The Bachelor during Arie Luyendyk’s season， but Kultgen and Pace filled me in on everything I needed to know。 How to Win the Bachelor includes data and advice for how best to tackle the “preseason，” night one， the “regular season，” “playoffs” （hometowns & fantasy suites）， women tell all， the finale， and the “postseason。” Within these highly researched pages， you will see the names of your favs from Bach Nation。 My girl @kaitlynbristowe was noted as being arguably the best “player” in Bachelor history。 Are you wondering how going on BIP， being the “ring winner，” or being crowned the next Bachelorette affects your IG following？ The authors cite great examples to answer these questions。Comparing watching The Bachelor to watching a sport was a hilarious way of looking at it。 Because let’s be honest， for some of us Bachelor fans， the finale is our equivalent of watching the Super Bowl。 How to Win the Bachelor is a highly entertaining and juicy deep-dive for fans of reality TV。 。。。more
Emily
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a must read for any future contestants of the show
Jemma
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Consider this my Scream From The Pit: I am not single， nor do I reside in the US， but I devoured this book as soon as I received it in the mail （thanks to a preordering mishap it came early！） and surely due to religiously listening to GoR's twice weekly podcast drops， I was so clearly able to hear it read in Clues and Pacecase's often gleeful voices。 Audiobook listeners will be in for a treat。Required reading for all Bachelor fans。 Consider this my Scream From The Pit: I am not single， nor do I reside in the US， but I devoured this book as soon as I received it in the mail （thanks to a preordering mishap it came early！） and surely due to religiously listening to GoR's twice weekly podcast drops， I was so clearly able to hear it read in Clues and Pacecase's often gleeful voices。 Audiobook listeners will be in for a treat。Required reading for all Bachelor fans。 。。。more
Kate
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If you consider yourself to be a fan of the Bachelor， reality TV， or even pop culture in general， this book is a must-read。 You will learn about the historical development of the Bachelor which has lead to the way it’s structured today。 Any chance you ever had of casually watching the Bachelor is ruined because after you read this book you will be obsessively analyzing each episode for strategy， plays and errors made by the players of the game。 This is the first book that seriously considers the If you consider yourself to be a fan of the Bachelor， reality TV， or even pop culture in general， this book is a must-read。 You will learn about the historical development of the Bachelor which has lead to the way it’s structured today。 Any chance you ever had of casually watching the Bachelor is ruined because after you read this book you will be obsessively analyzing each episode for strategy， plays and errors made by the players of the game。 This is the first book that seriously considers the Bachelor for what it is- America’s fastest growing professional sport。 10/10。 。。。more
Sara
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I will start by saying that I am incredibly biased as these authors host my favorite Bachelor recap podcast （I listen to six or seven every week， demonstrating how far into the pit I’ve fallen）。 I subscribe to their Patreon in which I am an active participant in their Game Night pre-shows and discord server。 Nevertheless there is a reason， for Chad and Lizzy have assessed and broken down our beloved game in a way that no one has managed to do。 I now only watch the document with a keen eyes towar I will start by saying that I am incredibly biased as these authors host my favorite Bachelor recap podcast （I listen to six or seven every week， demonstrating how far into the pit I’ve fallen）。 I subscribe to their Patreon in which I am an active participant in their Game Night pre-shows and discord server。 Nevertheless there is a reason， for Chad and Lizzy have assessed and broken down our beloved game in a way that no one has managed to do。 I now only watch the document with a keen eyes toward what plays of the game and what errors of the week are unfolding。 Sure this book is framed as a how-to guide for winning the bachelor in the professional era， which I am too old and too married to do （unless I qualify for the senior edition）， but it is so much more。 It unpacks why The Bachelor （and it’s adjacent shows） is the greatest professional sport alive today。 Descend into the pit with me， where you only think in terms of Bachelor game mechanics in your everyday life。 Learn the trick to the perfect HUJU。 Read this book。 。。。more
Samantha Allen
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Fantastic， comprehensive， and incredibly effective at presenting “The Bachelor” as the sport that it is。 It would be impossible to read this and maintain that the show is primarily about “finding love。” I expect it to create a reckoning moment for the franchise and the commentary surrounding it。
Stephanie （read_with_steph）
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Here's the thing。。。 if it is your goal to be a contestant on The Bachelor， or you have already been selected as a contestant on The Bachelor， this is the book for you。 The title is perfectly descriptive， as this nonfiction guide walks you through exactly what you need to do to secure your chances of The Ring， The Crown， and/or Instagram Followers。 There is no doubt that this book fills the void of Bachelor guides and provides useful advice for future contestants （even if they have to hide the fa Here's the thing。。。 if it is your goal to be a contestant on The Bachelor， or you have already been selected as a contestant on The Bachelor， this is the book for you。 The title is perfectly descriptive， as this nonfiction guide walks you through exactly what you need to do to secure your chances of The Ring， The Crown， and/or Instagram Followers。 There is no doubt that this book fills the void of Bachelor guides and provides useful advice for future contestants （even if they have to hide the fact they read it from， well， everyone）。But if you are NOT a future/aspiring Bachelor contestant。。。 this book may not be worth reading。 As a huge fan of Lizzie and Chad's Game of Roses Podcast （I am IN the pit， y'all）， I was super excited to read this book。 I have read many Bachelor books--Courtney Robertson's， Bachelor Nation， and more--as I always like a peak behind the curtain。 But this book isn't really that。 It's also not really satire。 Or， if it was trying to be satire， it missed the mark。 Unlike the podcast， it doesn't bring the funny。 There's also a somewhat out-of-place， out-of-the-blue chapter on racism in the franchise near the end of the book。 While racism in The Bachelor franchise is undoubtedly a hot topic and an important one， it feels random in this spot--like it was thrown in after the Chris Harrison debacle and written after the fact。 I think its content would have been better digested if sprinkled elsewhere in the book and what doesn't fit elsewhere is unnecessary for this kind of book。 That being said， if they wrote "How to Win The Bachelorette" or "How to Win Bachelor in Paradise，" I'd probably read those， too， out of morbid curiosity at a minimum。 Note to the publisher: the charts are near impossible to read in e-book。Thanks to Gallery for my eARC！ All thoughts and opinions are my own。 3 stars - 6/10 。。。more
Jen Ryland
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A fun， funny book that looks at the strategy behind being a successful Bachelor contestant。 A lot of the advice probably applies to a lot of reality shows。 （Basically: scrub your social media， work on your personal branding， invest in professional photos and a flattering new wardrobe， and always keep your eye on the prize。） First， How to Win the Bachelor gives you detailed guide on how to apply。 Funny one: you should make sure at least one family member is completely opposed to you being on the A fun， funny book that looks at the strategy behind being a successful Bachelor contestant。 A lot of the advice probably applies to a lot of reality shows。 （Basically: scrub your social media， work on your personal branding， invest in professional photos and a flattering new wardrobe， and always keep your eye on the prize。） First， How to Win the Bachelor gives you detailed guide on how to apply。 Funny one: you should make sure at least one family member is completely opposed to you being on the show， because the producers look for that for future conflict in the family visits。 Cringy one: make sure you have three on-brand stories about yourself that will make you relatable and sympathetic。Then， there's advice on everything from Limo Exits （should you be a granny or a blandy？） surviving the first day， and avoiding a Villain Edit （unless that's your brand lol。）The book will get a laugh from members of Bachelor Nation for sure！ I stopped watching the show years ago but still love a meta-analysis of a reality show。 The authors divide the show into five eras: classic， experimental， modern， paradise and professional。Read more of my reviews on JenRyland。com！ Let's be friends on Bookstagram！ Thanks to the publisher for providing an advance copy for review！ 。。。more
Jackie Reilly
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This book is easily the most comprehensive breakdown of the reality show "The Bachelor" to ever be published。 Chad and Lizzy break down the show in impressive detail， while making the compelling argument that "The Bachelor" is actually the fastest-growing professional sport in the US。 This book is essentially a how-to guide on how to successfully play the game if you are cast on the show， including strategies for preseason， in-game， and postseason play。 If you are not familiar with their podcas This book is easily the most comprehensive breakdown of the reality show "The Bachelor" to ever be published。 Chad and Lizzy break down the show in impressive detail， while making the compelling argument that "The Bachelor" is actually the fastest-growing professional sport in the US。 This book is essentially a how-to guide on how to successfully play the game if you are cast on the show， including strategies for preseason， in-game， and postseason play。 If you are not familiar with their podcast "Game of Roses，" I would recommend that you start by reading "The Lexicon，" which is located in the Appendix。 This section explains the terms that they have coined to describe certain game elements and strategies。 Next， read "The History of Our Beloved Game，" also in the Appendix， which provides context for each season of the Bachelor that will be mentioned。 I have been watching all Bachelor-franchise shows religiously since Kaitlyn Bristowe's season， but I had very little knowledge on the earlier seasons， especially those that are not available on any streaming services。 After reading these sections， you are ready for the hefty 12 chapters of gameplay explanation and strategy。 Although these chapters are very detail-heavy， the authors punctuate their statistics with humorous examples from "hero players" that make the book entertaining and easy to read。 Thank you very much for providing me with an ARC of this book to review-- I loved reading it and will be purchasing the audiobook！ I can't wait to hear this narrated by my favorite podcast hosts。 Pleaseee make this a trilogy-- I need to read "How to Win the Bachelorette" & "How to Win BIP" asap！！！ 。。。more
Caroline Trussell
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How to Win the Bachelor truly changed my view of this mega franchise and show that’s been airing for 20 years。 From learning the lingo to understanding every aspect of the “game，” this book truly opened my eyes and blew my mind。 I’ve been a fan of the Bachelor since 2015 and this book was both entertaining and informative and it showed how so many things in the Bachelor happen behind the scenes and， after reading this book and then watching the Bachelor， it was like WOW okay this totally makes s How to Win the Bachelor truly changed my view of this mega franchise and show that’s been airing for 20 years。 From learning the lingo to understanding every aspect of the “game，” this book truly opened my eyes and blew my mind。 I’ve been a fan of the Bachelor since 2015 and this book was both entertaining and informative and it showed how so many things in the Bachelor happen behind the scenes and， after reading this book and then watching the Bachelor， it was like WOW okay this totally makes sense and actually does happen。 I would highly recommend this book for anyone who is a fan of reality TV， The Bachelor and Bachelorette and even sports fans （you’ll see why）。 This book was a super easy and fun read and I can’t wait to purchase it once it comes out。 Hopefully we’ll also see a full analysis of the Bachelorette and BIP too！ 。。。more
This Feral Housewife
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Okay book。 You really need to be into the show to fully appreciate the topic in the pages。 It is well done and easy to read。
Stephanie
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Another librarian’s review summed this one up perfectly: “Horrifyingly thorough！” This book was written by two “superfans” who watched every season of the Bachelor — so we dont have to！ Despite the subtitle referencing the “secret to finding love and fame on America’s favorite reality。 show。” they really don’t focus all that much on finding love， pretty much abandoning any pretense that this show is about anything other than finding celebrity。 Other terms rot the actual goal of women going on th Another librarian’s review summed this one up perfectly: “Horrifyingly thorough！” This book was written by two “superfans” who watched every season of the Bachelor — so we dont have to！ Despite the subtitle referencing the “secret to finding love and fame on America’s favorite reality。 show。” they really don’t focus all that much on finding love， pretty much abandoning any pretense that this show is about anything other than finding celebrity。 Other terms rot the actual goal of women going on the show include “gaining followers，” “becoming an influencer，” or “the Crown” — the most coveted goal of all: being the next Bachelorette！There has only ever been one actual marriage between a Bachelor and one of his eager suitors （talking about you， Sean and Catherine） but the show goes on。 There is a TON os specific advice on how to clean up your social media in preparation for being cast， how to be cast， how much to spend on clothing （thousands！）， and how to exit the limo on night one to be memorable but not foolish。Interesting if you are a fan， borderline creepy if you aren’t。 More than you probably want or need to know。 With gratutude to Gallery Books and NetGalley for a copy in exchange for this honest review， I am so glad I didn’t spend money on this， but for anyone in the proper demographic， it just might be money well spent。 Three stars。 。。。more
Mary G。
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Pub date: Jan 18， 2022In one sentence: Chad Kultigen and Lizzy Pace watched every episode of The Bachelor - and they know how to play the game。Oh， The Bachelor。 Some people love it， some people hate it， some （most？） people love to hate it。 And it's not just the show - there are multiple spin-offs plus tons of podcasts， so you could spend your entire day in the Bachelor universe。 But no podcast has broken the Game down so thoroughly as HOW TO WIN THE BACHELOR。 I used to watch The Bachelor in coll Pub date: Jan 18， 2022In one sentence: Chad Kultigen and Lizzy Pace watched every episode of The Bachelor - and they know how to play the game。Oh， The Bachelor。 Some people love it， some people hate it， some （most？） people love to hate it。 And it's not just the show - there are multiple spin-offs plus tons of podcasts， so you could spend your entire day in the Bachelor universe。 But no podcast has broken the Game down so thoroughly as HOW TO WIN THE BACHELOR。 I used to watch The Bachelor in college and grad school， but I'm less familiar with the show now。I enjoyed following Chad and Lizzy's journey through the seasons of the show - moving from the early days， to the beginnings of Instagram to what they call the "Professional Era"， today's launchpad for wannabe influencers。 They break down the common character types， date types， and key moments across the seasons。 The book got a little long in the end， but I appreciated how comprehensive it was。 They also have a chapter addressing the show's whitewashing and the Chris Harrison scandal， and I'm really glad they called out the racism that frustrates many of the show's viewers。If you're a Bachelor superfan， or you love to snark about the show， I think you'll enjoy this book！Thank you to Gallery Books for providing an ARC on NetGalley in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more
MookNana
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This is a serious， comprehensive analysis of each aspect of the game of The Bachelor using all available evidence up to this point。 Organized by game milestone （first impressions， one on one dates， hometown visits， etc。） it breaks down each step and the strategies that have worked and backfired as well as how the women have been perceived （Good Girl， Villain， etc。） either by accident or by design。 I liked that it clearly identified two different end goals--The Ring （love， the actual bachelor） an This is a serious， comprehensive analysis of each aspect of the game of The Bachelor using all available evidence up to this point。 Organized by game milestone （first impressions， one on one dates， hometown visits， etc。） it breaks down each step and the strategies that have worked and backfired as well as how the women have been perceived （Good Girl， Villain， etc。） either by accident or by design。 I liked that it clearly identified two different end goals--The Ring （love， the actual bachelor） and The Crown （casting as the next Bachelorette and/or significant notoriety）。 As seriously as the book takes its subject， it's definitely not dry！ It's fun， wry， and highly readable。 Any fans of the show， and reality TV in general， will find this a very worthwhile read。 And， of course， anyone even vaguely entertaining the idea of trying to participate should have it memorized！Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review！ 。。。more
Elise
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As a huge fan of the franchise， this non-fiction guide was both hysterical and dead on with the infamous TV show。 I loved both the asides and nods to actual athletics as well as the fierce dedication to analyzing each and every season。 The references were a delight， writing easy to read， and the humor on point。 I would read this again and again。 Absolutely going on my keeper shelf。
Erin
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This is the most comprehensive analysis of The Bachelor you will ever encounter。 From examining the success rate of First Impression Rose recipients to the legacy of Instagram influencing to the racist past of the franchise， the authors bring us along on their Hyperbinge and subsequent breakdown of 25 Bachelor seasons。 Formatted as a guidebook for aspiring contestants — referred to as “players” of “our beloved game” — this was also an interesting read as someone fascinated by the cultural implic This is the most comprehensive analysis of The Bachelor you will ever encounter。 From examining the success rate of First Impression Rose recipients to the legacy of Instagram influencing to the racist past of the franchise， the authors bring us along on their Hyperbinge and subsequent breakdown of 25 Bachelor seasons。 Formatted as a guidebook for aspiring contestants — referred to as “players” of “our beloved game” — this was also an interesting read as someone fascinated by the cultural implications of this reality television giant。 Really horrifyingly thorough; I never want to go on that show。 Many thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review！ 。。。more
Emma Griffioen
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